How Men Lose Their Sex Appeal

Published: Mon, 09/19/22

Hey brother,

Continuing on with my Happily Divorced Man (HDM) theme, I want to talk about another reason you should act more like an HDM.

What would it feel like to be the recipient of this...

"Hey buddy, I was driving around today and you just popped into my head. Seriously. It was out of the blue and it made me wonder how you're doing. What's new with you lately? And don't just tell me you're "fine". I've been busy being busy and that's getting old. I'd like to get together for lunch next Friday at the pub and catch up with you. If you're open, how does noon sound? Miss you, brother."

I don't know about you, but when I get an unexpected text message or email like that from someone it just feels good.

Sometimes I feel guilty because I feel that people sometimes reach out to me more than I reach out to them.

I want to be a better friend. And I want to make sure I have a collection of high quality men in my circle.

If the old saying is true..."We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with"...then who are you planning to spend time with?

For many years I would simply end up hanging out with husbands of my wife's girlfriends. Or I would just spend a lot of time alone.

Here's what I think is a MUCH better mindset.

If we want more good male friends in our life...we must learn how to be a good male friend.

In the video below I talk about why a man needs to start hanging around better people.

You need people who inspire you. Drive you. Encourage you. And push you to be better.

Why don't married men do this?

Because some of us, myself included, are too busy FOLLOWING.

It wasn't until after my divorce I discovered the joy in marching to my own drum. Following my own lead. Dreaming bigger than ever. Setting my own priorities and putting myself first.

I found the enormous value of discontinuing friendships that were holding me back and creating new ones that ignited and inspired me. Many of those new friendships were forged with other men. I found them where quality men gather.

The whole point of my "happily divorced man" theme is to help you see - married or not - that you can start making better choices for yourself. You can stop following the expectations of others and start putting yourself and your goals first.

You can stop living in someone else's dream and start making decisions that actually serve YOU and your dream.

And here's the kicker. You can do this and not be an asshole.

You can do this and still give the people you love all the respect, empathy and love they deserve.

A "happily divorced man" learns how to care deeply about the thoughts, feelings and dreams of those he cares for...but...

A "happily divorced man" also learns how to not give a flip what others think about him - his values - his goals and his dreams.

He can't. If he does he will sabotage himself and the life he wants to create.

He will constantly follow the agenda of others. He will live in their frame of thinking, feeling and dreaming. He will feel trapped. And he will never be able to find and live his true purpose.

HOW do you actually do this and not feel like you're going crazy ?

You do it by reaching out for help from men who have figured out the path.

That's where we come in...

If you want to learn more about how to recharge your sex appeal, I’d love to help show you the way. Get started today, here's your first step...go HERE to apply for a Free "Renewed Masculine Direction" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.

Lotta love brother,
Steve

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