"What other people think of you, your values and your desires doesn’t freaking matter"
It’s actually a GOOD idea to think about a role models like Jesus, John Wayne, your Dad or whoever you want to emulate. It’s good to think about the values, confidence and energy you admire. But don’t be a mimic. Don’t just parrot stuff you
read and hear.
Do the work to build your own self-respect.
Get CLEAR on why other people could be admiring YOU.
Nail down the standards and boundaries that drive the way you think, speak and act.
And the very next thing you’ll learn in this journey is that what other people think of you, your values and your desires doesn’t freaking matter.
What’s more, you’ll learn that THEY don’t want it to matter. They don’t want the burden of seeing you react to their opinion of you.
Here’s what they DO want?
They want to FEEL your crystal clear confidence in yourself and what you believe.
They want to feel safe and comfortable with your calm, deliberate and pleased ability to live in your own skin.
They want to experience your gentle
compassion coupled with you non-negotiable sense of purpose.
They want to see that your happiness is driven by how well you’re living in alignment with YOUR values and NOT by what other people are or aren’t giving you.
How do you get there?
How do get that switch to
flip?
It happens automatically when you do enough work with other initiated men.
Man to man coaching is NOT therapy. This is NOT a deep dive into your past to dissect all the excuses we ALL have for feeling insecure or inadequate.
This about finally seeing the truth about TWO THINGS:
How YOU have been showing up as a
man
How you have created a space that has allowed anyone else to make you feel abused, emasculated, disrespected, ignored, unwanted or
betrayed.
I’m assuming the men you admire never complain about how badly others make them feel.
That’s because they’ve figured out how to BE a man who expects and deserves better for himself.
He’s embodied a set of personal standards and boundaries that drive the way he thinks and
feels.
He’s created a new mindset and masculine frame that communicates to everyone what he expects OF himself and FOR himself.
And his calm, non-negotiable energy is unmistakable and, by the way, incredibly attractive.
THAT’s where you go when the “light switch” flips.
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.
Lotta love brother,
Steve
