Hey,
I'm a long-time member of an amazing, inspiring, powerful and brilliant group of men.
They are funny, warm, kind, supportive and unapologetically vulnerable. We learn, laugh and sometimes cry together.
We meet three times every single month for about 90 minutes...normally about 30 of us show up.
And I have to tell you that every time we say goodbye I have more energy, more focus, more calm and more SPRING in my step. (I want YOU in this group, by the way.)
Recently one of the guys was filling us in about his first date with a smart, confident, independent woman who was also a nurse. We had been talking about how many men are intimitated or agitated by such women and how to just relax and enjoy them. He smiled and said:
Brothers, I had the date with the nurse and we had some chemistry. I was in Mountain Lion status and remembered I was the prize. We had dinner for 2 hours and then we went country western dancing and we had a blast. So much she wants to see me again. I was
very receptive to her stories and was a listener all the way. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you are a transforming man.
The thing that stands out most for me is this.
"I remembered I was the prize."
It's one of the 50 Traits of a Happily Divorced Man I've told you about before. The secret twist is that the secret to a happy MARRIAGE is by becoming more happy,
confident and connected within yourself!
Let me explain this "I'm the prize" thing.
- It's NOT about being full of yourself.
- It's NOT about having an inflated ego.
- It's NOT about being better than anyone else.
- And it's NOT about playing stupid games and manipulations
There's a place within yourself where you can feel an internal peaceful, calm and confident FOCUS on who you really are...what you really believe in...what you really want...and where you're really going.
This is what it means to feel like "You are the prize."
It's this guy who shows up with an open mind and open heart.
He's confident about who he is and is not threatened by other smart, confident people.
He's generous with the way he listens. He's generous with his curiosity to understand others before needing to be understood.
He's patient, kind and absolutely unattached to any specific outcome either on a date...or in his marriage.
Why did the nurse want to see him again?
Because being around him felt easy, safe, comfortable and exciting.
Yeah, it's kind of exciting for a woman to be around a calm, confident mature man who knows he has a lot to give. It's exciting because it's rare.
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Why is it so hard to achieve this level of internal peace and confidence?
Here are a few reasons. All of these applied to me at one point.
- I didn't hang out with any men like that. I didn't know any.
- I felt insecure about my own value in the eyes of my wife
- I used anger and resentment to communicate my unhappiness and lack of confidence
- I had a lot of shame around intimacy and sexuality and felt like it was somebody else's fault.
- I was always good at my job...but never felt competent or appreciated as a husband.
- I had absolutely no clue there was a better way of thinking, feeling and expressing myself.
Do any of those ring a bell for you?
If so, there's something you can do about it.
This is where I am inviting you to join the club.
The Goodguys2Greatmen Roundtable is the group who meets 3 times every month. We also chat constantly in our private forum where so much personal stuff is shared it will
blow your mind.
If you join us, we will introduce you to the community on our next live call which is June 23rd at 1pm MDT.
We'll make you feel seen, heard and appreciated more than you may have felt for years.
We'll listen to your story and offer you support and brotherhood.
There are so many benefits, including ALL of our last two years of recordings. These are like Mojo Building Podcasts that you can listen to increase your learning and excitement for being a better you.
It's a commitment to a different lifestyle that can transform your masculine frame, your relationships and improve the next decade of life in ways you've never imagined.
It's your move, brother. Click HERE to get the scoop and the monthly cost. It costs about the same as a cup of coffee a day.
And if you're just not sure if it's for you, then ASK for a free consultation call. These calls are for serious minded men willing to spend an hour or more connecting with a coach who can help you focus and make your best next
decision.
The ball is now in your court. No risk, no reward.
