Red Flag Alert: Is Your Wife Shamelessly Farting in Front of You ?

Published: Sun, 03/13/22

Hey,

At this very moment I'm sitting at a bar all by myself, drinking a beer and typing this to you. I'm actually typing it to myself.

It's a cool place in Fort Collins. Pretty crowded for 2:30pm. It's great to see people out...smiling without masks...connecting and enjoying an unseasonably warm Colorado day.

You see, it's Saturday and I might normally be sitting on the couch with a dog in my lap watching something useless on TV.

I made the executive decision to leave the house for about 6 hours, drive my diesel guzzling truck 45 minutes to town, go to the gym and write this letter to you while drinking a 90 Shilling Ale. (yes, I see the irony in a trip to the gym and the bar. IDGAF.)

My sweetheart understands. We've been smelling each other's farts for waaaaay too many days in a row.

Now, there's nothing wrong with chilling out with your dog. But there IS something wrong with a chronic, repetitive pattern of pissing away time wondering why your days aren't more "awesomer".

And even as we come out of the "lockdown mindset", a lot of us are still behaving like we're in a house-bound holding pattern.

Many men and their wives have gotten WAY too familiar with each other. This is typically a "red flag" as it really jacks with their romantic chemistry.

Any sense of romantic or sexual polarity you USED TO have slowly goes numb.

Have you been farting in front of each other constantly and allowing that whiny, pissy energy to enter conversations about what's for dinner?

If so, what's the cure?

WE HAVE TO GET A LIFE!

No matter what, you must find a new energy of enthusiasm, connection and passion for something OTHER than plodding through another day of TV news, social media, jammy pants and (ummm....) bags of Cheetos. (like I said, I'm writing this letter to me)

The truth about us guys is that we can get TOO comfortable with routine. TOO familiar.

Even BEFORE sheltering at home came in fashion, we can take the easy route. We meander in mediocrity quietly dreaming that SOMETHING exciting might come into our marriage, our bedroom and our life.

The truth is that nothing new is coming into your life.

Something new must come out of you.

Hell, I had to starting building my he shed-she shed to get out of the house. That project alone has got my mojo amped up enough to shoot this video for you from the new deck of my 120 square foot "hotel paradise". Maybe you'll get to sleep here once my retreats start up again!

Here I talk in more detail about creating something new.

How to Cure Your Pandemic Pissyness (and improve your marriage at the same time!)

Leadership Starts With Leading Yourself

Many men we work with complain that that can't lead because nobody will follow.

They point out their attempts to engage with their wife or kids only lead to feeling dismissed or rejected. They are missing a key point.

You can't lead from the rear...

you must lead from the front.

This means that is you want to FEEL excitement, engagement, enthusiasm, connection, respect, affection and/or appreciation...you must FIRST GET GOOD AT BEING THOSE THINGS FOR YOURSELF!

I know! It's like "Backwardsville"! How can being so self-centered possibly be construed as leadership?

It's because talk is cheap. Nobody wants to follow someone who talks (or complains) about what they want. They will always follow someone who is unapologetically and enthusiastically BEING what they want.

I know some guys who are jumping out of planes because they are afraid of heights. Other guys are disappearing in the middle of the day to fly kites with the kids. A few guys are finally buying that damn motorcycle they have been afraid to buy for fear of being criticized.

And one guy decided to grab his blow torch and roast marshmallows in his living room "campsite" with the kids. (you know who you are)

Now is the time for you to lead from the front. Demonstrate what excitement, enthusiasm and engaged LOOKS like. Allow everyone else to get caught up in your draft.

They will follow as long as you don't look back.

This is the key to leadership. Go in the direction you passionately want to go and invite others to come along.

My community of men are ALL pushing each other to become this kind of man. And the daily stories of triumph are what made me write today's email.

I'm so inspired by the energy building. It's like the community was at one time a "small tropical depression" but has now gained hurricane strength.

The source of that strength is with other men who want what YOU want.

And I want that excitement, enthusiasm and engagement to get you whipped up into a category 3 storm.

Will you at least think about joining us? We need more fuel. And you're just what we need to keep the fire burning!

Join Dan Dore and I in the Men's Live Coaching Roundtable group for amazing conversation, coaching and insights. We meet THREE TIMES every month. The conversations will blow your mind. This is stuff your dad never told you. This is where men learn and grow.

And if you're on the edge of divorce with threats of leaving or requests for "space" then the How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb online course would be perfect. This course is taught by coach Tim Wade and we have over 400 powerful men who support each other on a daily basis. It's possible that the group interaction is more valuable than the 9 hours of video coaching in the course!

Click those links to get more information, videos and FAQ's. You're in the right place.

Lotta love, brother

Steve

P.S. The May 30-April 2, 2022 Confident Man Ranch Retreat is filling up! 4 spots left. I LOVE this retreat and would love to share a beer around the campfire with you. What kind of man lives life like that? You...that's who.

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