If you try this for only one week I think you'll be amazed.
Stop the Head games.
Stop analyzing, fixing, arguing, defending, explaining, asking, interrogating, problem solving, trouble shooting and otherwise trying to examine her or FIX her. Stop thinking that being right is actually important.
Start the Heart games.
Start really listening without judging. Start assuming the best and giving her benefit of the doubt. Start seeing her emotions as simple indicators instead of attacks. Start relaxing into a calmer demeanor...curious, confident, playful and positive.
If you give this your full intention things will change.
If you can consciously shift your presence from a guy who is DOING THINGS for affection and intimacy to a guy who is SIMPLY BEING a calm, affectionate guy who loves intimacy...things will change!
I would love you to send me an email in one week to tell how you felt in this new skin. What did you notice about the things around you? How did the energy change in your relationship?