Question:
I want so badly to feel that calm confidence you talk about. How am I ever going to change and feel that for myself?
Answer:
I am compelled to tell you a story in my life where all this inner work took a firm hold on my heart and soul. For me, it started by making a choice which felt scary and unusual.
To HAVE something different you need to BE different. To BE different, sometimes, you need to DO something different.
I was about half-way through my own coaching work when the opportunity came up to attend Steve’s Confident Man Ranch Retreat.
I’ll be honest - I love the men’s work, I love the knowledge we shared and the conversations we had been having.
I hated the idea of horses.
I had never been around horses, never grew up with them and, of course, never ridden one. They were big animals with minds of their own.
Plain and simple, I was afraid of them.
That’s EXACTLY the reason I had to attend.
It had to lean into my fears and become something new.
I remember committing with a nervous and somewhat hesitant, “Hell yes. Game on. Let’s do this.”
I was excited to be going. While also second guessing my decision the next three months until the retreat started. (Thank God for non-refundable deposits 😊)
I had a friend smirk and ask me, “Are you going to sit around a fire naked and sing kumbaya?”
I just smiled at him. He doesn’t understand yet what it means to live with courage. For all I know, that might be something we do. I just could not stay where I was at any longer, whatever it took to change, I was in.
When the day came to leave, I hopped into my truck and started my drive to Colorado.
I was finally doing something for myself, just for me. I left my work behind, I left my children in the capable hands of my parents and I had never felt more alive and free.
Men, if you have never done something like this for yourself, trust me, the first fifteen minutes of this type of self-care is completely worth the price of admission.
You will finally understand what it means to “love yourself first” when you embark on a journey of this nature.
When I arrived at the ranch after a two-day road trip through beautiful mid-west countryside I was greeted with open arms and a knowing smile.
The next few days would prove to be a pivotal moment in my life and one I will never forget.
It’s impossible to forget those feelings when they seem to get etched into your bones.
In-person retreats expose who you are at a core level.
The comradery of brothers and the knowledge shared between one another is unmatched.
That weekend I committed to the learning exercises, I rode the horse, and was able to share my own experiences.
What I received was life-altering.
I left feeling like I was truly seen for the first time.
I left with new tools in my toolbox. Knowledge that was forged in my heart like iron in fire.
I left feeler calmer and centered. It felt as is my blood pressure had dropped.
I left feeling that everything was going to be okay, and I could handle it all.
I left with clarity on the next decisions I needed to make for myself.
I left feeling wholly supported and encouraged while moving forward in my journey.
I left with life-long brothers and partners.
I left feeling as if I did 12 months of coaching in one, amazing weekend.
If this sounds like a sales pitch, I don’t care. It is a sales pitch. I want you to experience this so badly.
Think of a retreat like it a coaching program on steroids that is 50% - 75% off the originally priced service. That’s what it is.
It is a weekend where you align yourself to who you truly are and point yourself in the direction of getting what you truly deserve.
If you want her to FEEL differently about you when you get home, you need to get to this retreat and FEEL differently about yourself when you leave.
I want you to be the man who fills one of the last remaining spots for this retreat. I want to help you see how
powerful you really are – click the link and join me.
The 2021 Grounded Man Golf Retreat
September 16-19 in Southern Utah (fly into Las Vegas)
Thoughts From The Woodshop
I have a special place in my heart for jobsite installs. I like them a lot.
There is just something special about working alongside the guys in the dirt, and sawdust, and chaos.
When jobs like this have the cooperation of all the select trades aiming for the same goal something beautiful is always created.
When the concrete guys, the framers, plumbers, electricians, flooring subcontractors, finish carpenters, cabinet guys, and countertop installers are solving problems together, working towards the same outcome, the collaboration of these individuals yields amazing results.
It is in those times where you can witness the old saying - the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
The way we combine our individual knowledge and experience adds exponentially to the quality of the outcome.
It seems like during the working hours we solve the project’s problems and during coffee break we solve all of life’s problems. That’s why coffee breaks take so long 😉
I guess these jobsites can remind me when I was a child of working with my father and my uncles. There is something special about all that wisdom in one place and sharing it openly.
Maybe I want to recreate that in my retreats? A little sweat, a little spit, and whole lot of talking shit.
