Let me explain:
When she fires off a lighting bolt, you can let the electricity pass right on through and dissipate if you have a completed grounded connection.
- Love For One’s Self
This is simply knowing that you are a good man, and you are well intentioned. You deserve kindness and respect. Heck yes you make mistakes, but it doesn’t mean that you are a mistake.
- Extreme Ownership of One’s Experience
This means that you understand that the interpretation you create from the criticism is your responsibility. You know that you cannot control other people’s behavior, but you are 100% responsible for your own response and the meaning you place behind it.
- Connection To The Universe
For me this means “I am not alone.” We have an energetic connection to everything, a purpose on why we are here, and the belief that we have value to share with others. This is that little voice in your head saying, “you are pretty special and created for a reason.” Do you hear it? Be honest…I know
it’s in there. If we choose to listen, it can become empowering.
- Knowing Who You Are & Where You Are Going
I think this is knowing what you stand for and what are your core operating principals or values. Combined with knowing what you desire and why you desire it. This is important because this is how you show up in the world and how you are perceived. If you know, the people around you will know it
too just by watching you.
That’s it really. If you find yourself swallowing these criticisms and daily challenges - check out your internal wiring. Look for places where there may be disconnection and repair as needed.
You cannot stop the lighting bolt from striking, but you can create a deep, grounded connection to who you are and allow the negatively charged energy to dissipate into the earth.
(Check out P.S. at the bottom for specific training on becoming a "Grounded Man")
Thoughts From The Woodshop
My big cabinet job 3 hours from my shop is going well…for me anyway.
The job itself is waaaayyyyy behind schedule and the tensions are high.
I got there late morning and walked past the electrician who grumbled, “This job is a s%$t-show. It can’t get any worse.”
I saw the tile guy in the back-entry, and he had some choice words as well.
I then ran into the pissed off, red-in-the-face, stressed general contractor.
“It’s about time you got here! This place needs to get done! When are you going to wrap this up!” he snarled at me.
(explanation – I only have a few doors, some crown molding, and hardware to install. I am not holding anybody up right now. In fact, the jobsite isn’t even prepared enough for me to be done.)
“Hi Steve, this place is really looking good since I’ve been here. We are going to do the best we can for you. I understand the pressure you must be under. We’ll work hard for you today.” I smiled back at him. “Any place in particular you need me to start?” I asked.
I didn’t take his tone personally.
I didn’t take his complaints personally.
I didn’t get defensive or argue with him.
I knew my value and presence is what he needed that day.
He didn’t need more bitching and complaining. We would have been stuck there all day.
He smiled, shook his head and in a much lighter tone the next thing out of his mouth was, “What can I do to help you today? Do you need anything?”
I said, “No, but if we run into any questions, we’ll let you know.”
After that, he thanked us and then jumped into his truck and ran off to his next house.
He just needed to vent his frustrations off his chest and move forward with his day.
