What To Do When You Get the "Emotional Stiff Arm" in the Gut

Published: Mon, 05/02/22

What To Do When You Get the "Emotional Stiff Arm" in the Gut

By: Coach Jeff Allen

My name is Jeff Allen, a men's coach with GoodGuys2GreatMen and CEO of GreatMenMoveMountains. I’ve been a licensed, professional teacher since 2010, and I’ve personally coached hundreds of men who want to save their marriage, cultivate more sex, and feel confident within themselves no matter what happens in their relationship. I teach men how to think, how to act, and how to be inspirational to everyone around them so they can have more joy, love, and success in their lives.

Let’s start right here, right now.

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“She’s so judgmental and nasty,” Tom said. “I want her to open. I want her to stop being so demanding and cold.”

“She’s shut down, numb, stressed, and obsessed with tasking. It’s like she’s replaced our relationship with a To-Do List. She always has an excuse why she doesn’t want to spend time with me or have sex.”

This is what Masculine Shielding looks like in your wife. It's like getting an "emotional stiff arm" in the gut.

“Is she doing this out of spite?”

“Is she withholding love and affection to purposefully punish me?”

Masculine Shielding is the way your woman is trying to handle fearful thoughts, anger, and anxiety.

When Tom called me, he was frustrated by his wife’s lack of trust, intimacy, and love. She was so busy, stressed, and cold. He wanted more. He wanted something to be different. He wanted to know WHY she was being like this.

Why is this Masculine Shielding happening?

“Tom, your wife has developed her Masculine Shield to protect herself from pain and disappointment.”

It helps her feel in control and powerful vs. lost and helpless.
It allows her to feel “in charge of herself” vs. fearful and full of anxiety.

Masculine Shielding is a Sex & Sensuality Killer

“As soon as your wife needed to harden herself, put up armor, and keep her emotions out of her body, she externalized all her energy. A woman's sexual response, emotional intimacy, and desire for connection must to come from the inside of her. But since she’s shut this down, she’s cold, demanding, and task-oriented. She’s trying to protect herself.”

Her ability to "shield up" and "shut down" is a powerful evolutionary tool that ensures her survival. It helps her survive, but it doesn’t help her thrive, and it’s a relationship killer.

Here are 3 steps you need to take immediately:

1. Identify how your wife uses masculine shielding to fearfully protect herself.

2. See your woman's closure as a poorly designed protective shield and a covert request to be seen.

3. Learn how to bloom her through past pains into a connected, intimate, passionate marriage.

An initiated man knows what she wants, even when she doesn't know how to say it.

“None of her shielding will help her feel the safety, trust, and surrender she WANTS in a sensual, connected, and exciting relationship with you.”

Your wife doesn't want her armor to "out man" you.
She wants you to notice, understand why it is there, and move in to “fight the dragon” that is destroying your intimacy and your marriage.
She wants you to be a badass King and know how to de-shield her.
Your wife doesn't want to be stressed, directing, shut down, and numb. She wants to feel alive, flowing, and safe to be herself in love, life, and relationship.

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So, where do you go from here?

The odds are you are a really good guy. You want to be proud of the man you are being and you want your relationship with your wife to be better, but if you could have worked this problem out on your own, you would have done it by now.

At this point we always ask you, "What do you really want?"

It's one of the hardest questions for men to answer. Why?

It seems as if we've been programmed to be afraid of saying what we want!

Only a total jerk would clearly, plainly and unapologetically say out loud what he really wants for himself and his life...right?

Wrong. In fact, if you don't decide to clearly state what you want and go after it, nobody else will do it for you.

We send you these emails to stimulate your thinking and to stir your emotions. That's the first step to taking the lead in your life.

If this email jolted your thinking...or if it tugged at your heart, then you are being called to stand up and do something.

We want to show you what it’s like to speak with a man who has lived what you’re going through. It’s rare to feel totally seen, heard and valued by another man.

Simple.

We live to serve men. We live to light a spark of realization in your mind that change is possible. Confidence is natural. And becoming empowered to improve your situation is mandatory.

If you do want to talk about our coaching programs, groups and courses, that may take another call.

First things first. Let’s get you moving in the right direction for now.

Click HERE now to schedule your personal conversation. Plan for at least ONE HOUR. I guarantee you will happy you did.

And if you want to send Jeff Allen a personal message about this email, you can email him at jeff@greatmenmovemountains.com

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