Keys to a Vibrant Passionate Sex Life in a Long-term Relationship

Published: Mon, 06/20/22

Keys to a vibrant passionate sex life in a long-term relationships

My name is Dennis Collins and I live in Overland Park Kansas outside of Kansas City.

I am a master coach with Goodguys2Greatmen and owner of Man Of Legacy.

I help men find their direction again, repair their masculine foundation and given them the path towards confidence, love, success and deep and intimately connected relationships moving forward.

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A challenge all men face in long-term committed relationships is keeping the spark (intimacy) alive.

To do this requires three things.

The first is connection.

The reality is, the deeper the connection the greater the intimacy.

This means being fully present with your partner when you're together. When you are deeply connected you can feel your partner's energy. Be vulnerable with her and have an open heart to her. Make her feel seen and heard. This also means you cannot be just a provider and a father, but that you must not ignore the importance of being a lover.

Second is consistency.

Why is consistency so important?

It strengthens the trust that has been built by connection. Consistency allows your partner to relax into her feminine and feel safe. This may include regular date nights...deally weekly or minimum of twice a month.

It also means making sure you do not do the same old thing all the time. Women NEED variety in the bedroom.

Now comes the biggest key, number 3.

Many would guess the most important thing for a sexual relationship to be successful long-term might think I'm referring to techniques, dating or other thing. But they would be wrong.

Third is communication!

Most couples struggle when it comes to communication, especially when it pertains to money or sex.

Want to be a good communicator? Remember these tips:

Listen to understand, not to respond.
Do not interrupt.
Understand the emotions behind the words.
Soften your energy and tone of your voice.
Look her in the eyes and smile when you are talking.
Never discuss intimate matters when upset.
Do not get defensive.

Communication is the most critical thing when it comes to a vibrant passionate relationship and sex life.

Melanie and I have found that most people cannot talk about sex-related topics easily.

Sex and money are two of the most challenging topics for couples.

These topics also cause the most significant problems in a relationship.

If you can stay curious and not get defensive when talking about these topics you're halfway home.

How can you truly get your needs met if you cannot talk about them with your partner?

I learned the answer in my first marriage.

Talking about sex was uncomfortable for both my ex-wife and I.

My approach was ineffective because I was not communicating from a point of connection - I was looking for what was in it for me. Compared to now, it is like night and day.

Now I give the gift of my sexuality from a grounded place of

confidence.

Did this email hit to close to home for you? Do you struggle discussing sex, desires, dreams, and fantasies with your wife?

Rest assured you are not alone brother.

The solution?

Work on yourself first and then improve the connection in your relationship.

Show up consistently as the man YOU want to be.

Communicate with the woman you love from your heart……….giving your love.

So, where do you go from here?

The odds are you are a really good guy. You want to be proud of the man you are being and you want your relationship with your wife to be better, but if you could have worked this problem out on your own, you would have done it by now.

At this point we always ask you, "What do you really want?"

It's one of the hardest questions for men to answer. Why?

It seems as if we've been programmed to be afraid of saying what we want!

Only a total jerk would clearly, plainly and unapologetically say out loud what he really wants for himself and his life...right?

Wrong. In fact, if you don't decide to clearly state what you want and go after it, nobody else will do it for you.

We send you these emails to stimulate your thinking and to stir your emotions. That's the first step to taking the lead in your life.

If this email jolted your thinking...or if it tugged at your heart, then you are being called to stand up and do something.

We want to show you what it’s like to speak with a man who has lived what you’re going through. It’s rare to feel totally seen, heard and valued by another man.

Simple.

We live to serve men. We live to light a spark of realization in your mind that change is possible. Confidence is natural. And becoming empowered to improve your situation is mandatory.

If you do want to talk about our coaching programs, groups and courses, that may take another call.

First things first. Let’s get you moving in the right direction for now.

Click HERE now to schedule your personal conversation. Plan for at least ONE HOUR. I guarantee you will happy you did.

And if you want to send Dennis Collins a personal message about this email, you can email him at denniscollins@manoflegacy.org

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