What you don't know will kill your relationship!

Published: Tue, 06/14/22

What you don't know will kill your relationship!

My name is Dennis Collins and I live in Overland Park Kansas outside of Kansas City.

I am a master coach with Goodguys2Greatmen and owner of Man Of Legacy.

I help men find their direction again, repair their masculine foundation and given them the path towards confidence, love, success and deep and intimately connected relationships moving forward.

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Two weeks ago I talked about how women who had weekly date nights with their husbands reported being 340% more satisfied in their relationships.

Many important things like this are unknown to most men because they have never been taught.

Most of us have never been taught about polarity, emotional safety, the dance of the feminine and masculine and how the feminine responds to masculine leadership.

Some common beliefs that are not true when it comes to men, women, and sex:

Men struggle with monogamy more than women.

Men need variety more than women.

Men lose sexual interest in long-term relationships.

Women have lower libidos than men.

Men are more likely to cheat.

Men are kinkier than women.

None of the above is true all of the time!

Multiple studies have shown that after 90 months a man's relative desire stays the same for his partner. However female desire drops dramatically during the same time.

Women who are in the same relationship often report less desire, arousal, and satisfaction and often we blame kids for this. That is not the only cause.

Two centuries ago William Cowper's poem “The Task," said ”variety is the very spice of life, that gives it all its flavor” - and he wasn't wrong.

So what can you do to improve the "variety factor"?

If you're in a monogamous, long-term relationship how are you going to address this relationship-killing issue?

Your relationship and your sex life are no different than a garden. To yield a bountiful harvest it must be tended to, weeded, watered. It must be given love, attention, and TLC to flourish.

I made the mistake of thinking simply having perfunctory sex 2 to 3 times a week was an indicator of a healthy marriage. Boy was I wrong! Truthfully, I was not tending the garden.

I've come a long way from using frequency as a measuring stick. It’s now the least of my concerns. I am very intentional to make sure that Melanie never feels like I am just doing the same old thing in the romance and sex department. (yes, she knows I tell you about our love life)

It is possible to have hot and wonderfully satisfying sex lives years and decades into a relationship – but you must tend the garden. Here are 7 of my top garden tending tips:

You must date your wife.

Make her feel desired and leave no doubt that you want and lust for her.

Time away from the kids is critical. Adult time to connect is what dates are for.

Variety, variety, variety! Eating steak every night eventually gets old.

Never stop learning. You must self-educate when it comes to matters related to relationships and sex.

Never stop being curious about your wife, her dreams and her desires.

Stop focusing on sex and orgasms and start focusing on pleasure, having fun, and connecting.

It is our responsibility to lead in the relationship. This includes doing our work and understanding that it is a lifelong journey...not a destination.

It is not a burden, but an honor.

It is no surprise that many men who work with GoodGuys2GreatMen coaches end up improving all aspects of their life. They become more grounded, confident and professionally successful, often getting promotions. Relationships with their children improve and they become happier overall.

This is the result of choosing to live a more present, connected, and fulfilling life in which you become to leader and creator of what you want!

So, where do you go from here?

The odds are you are a really good guy. You want to be proud of the man you are being and you want your relationship with your wife to be better, but if you could have worked this problem out on your own, you would have done it by now.

At this point we always ask you, "What do you really want?"

It's one of the hardest questions for men to answer. Why?

It seems as if we've been programmed to be afraid of saying what we want!

Only a total jerk would clearly, plainly and unapologetically say out loud what he really wants for himself and his life...right?

Wrong. In fact, if you don't decide to clearly state what you want and go after it, nobody else will do it for you.

We send you these emails to stimulate your thinking and to stir your emotions. That's the first step to taking the lead in your life.

If this email jolted your thinking...or if it tugged at your heart, then you are being called to stand up and do something.

We want to show you what it’s like to speak with a man who has lived what you’re going through. It’s rare to feel totally seen, heard and valued by another man.

Simple.

We live to serve men. We live to light a spark of realization in your mind that change is possible. Confidence is natural. And becoming empowered to improve your situation is mandatory.

If you do want to talk about our coaching programs, groups and courses, that may take another call.

First things first. Let’s get you moving in the right direction for now.

Click HERE now to schedule your personal conversation. Plan for at least ONE HOUR. I guarantee you will happy you did.

And if you want to send Dennis Collins a personal message about this email, you can email him at denniscollins@manoflegacy.org

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